>--- In [log in to unmask], "Mark J. Reed" <markjreed@...> 

>If I may briefly attempt to drag this thread kicking and screaming
>back toward the original question...

>Does Spanish have an equivalent verb to totoyer/duzen/etc?  I've 
>heard one...

The verb is "tutear."  If there is one equivalent to "siezen," I'm 
aware of it.
Recently my parishioners told me that, as their pastor, I 
should "tutear" them.  They continue to use Usted when addressing me.

>Henrik Theiling wrote:
>We could perhaps agree that cultures differ in the selection of
>situations that allow intimacy.

If "American" is a culture, then I'd like to amend Henrik's 
to "subculture."  Judith Martin is a syndicated columnist in the US, 
more familiarly known as Miss Manners.  She says that people should 
called what they want to be called.  There are, of course, some 
limitations to this.  I'm not addressing anyone in the US as "your 

But, like Henrik, I don't care to be on an intimate footing with 
everyone who comes down the pike.  If a salesperson addresses me by 
first name, I tell them, "Please don't call me by my first name.  We 
are total strangers."  To be friendly with another does not equate 
to being friends.

My parishes are in Appalachia, part of the American "Bible Belt."  
Many will not address me as "father" because of their interpretation 
of Jesus' words.  I respect their view but, as they call their own 
pastors "reverend" or "pastor," it would be polite to address me 
However, there still is a lingering anti-Catholicism in many parts 
our nation.